I’d like to address some of the questions that you might have as you think about planning a ceremony for yourself or for a loved one. Of course, these questions may trigger additional questions, and I will be happy to answer any and all of them when we speak.
First, you should have a “good” feeling when you speak to a potential celebrant for your ceremony. The celebrant should be able to show you that he/she has understood what you have said about what you want. The celebrant should be clear about what he/she can offer you, and how he/she will work together with you, and what the cost will be.
Of course, your contract should clearly state the date, time and place of your ceremony, and the fee that you have agreed to pay. If you are to review the text ahead of time, this should be specified. The contract should also include whether a rehearsal is to be included, and any items that the celebrant will be responsible for bringing (ie, sound system, items for rituals, etc).
First, I will listen very closely to the words and the meaning that you express when you describe what you want. I will ask questions—lots of them!—and offer a few ideas of my own, to make sure we are understanding each other. Then, I will research readings, poetry, and rituals that can enhance the important points that you have in mind. After that, I will write an initial draft of the ceremony to give it to you for your review. I will do as many re-writes as necessary until you are totally happy with the result. You will have the final say!
Yes. Please do not be afraid to ask any question at all, even if you might think it a “silly” questions. Most people have not worked with a celebrant before, and so might not even be sure about what should be asked. You can relax about this—no question is a foolish question!